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You Could be Selling to a Three Year Old

boywtongueI was reading an interesting article this morning on child behavior, more specifically why toddlers don’t necessarily do what they are told. According to the research, three year olds don’t think like the rest of us.

For everyone older than three, if you realize it is cold outside you can think ahead and grab your coat before you head out the door. The three year old, however, has a different mental process. The three year old HAS to run outside, experience the cold, retrieve the memory of where his coat is, and then go get it.

As I continued to think, though, the article gave me a potential explanation for some curious customer interactions I have seen over the years.

I have seen clients trust their Account Managers recommendation enough to buy hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of hardware and software, but then slash the recommended implementation and training budget thus hobbling the deployment before it even begins.

Curiously, what were two of the top 5 things customers were most unhappy about after their deployments?  Perceived poor implementation and insufficient end user training.

Why does your customer “hear” you and order the hardware and software but then selectively ignore you on the topics of implementation and training?

In short, because the customer, like the three year old, either can’t register what you are saying,  does not have the frame of reference on which to fully comprehend the question, let alone make an informed decision or just does not trust your recommendation in this area. He may very well have to experience the pain, then seek the remedy.

More specifically in these instances, I see two possibilities.

Your client does not take your recommendation because you have not established an unwavering trust in the areas of implementation and training to override his lack of understanding of the potential ramifications.

Or.

Because you are perceived as an expert in hardware and software, an area where the client acknowledges he has little knowledge, but are also perceived as less than an expert, or worse yet, a corporate shill, in implementation and training, where the client may feel he has some relevant expertise.

The resolution is similar for both.

Put the same level of planning and forethought into discussing the training and implementation as you put into the discussion about your core offering. When you do discuss training and implementation, discuss hard numbers from other similar implementations, with references if necessary, to build the same level of trust you built on your core offering.

Give me your thoughts on this “Theory of 3.”

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  • Elle Virna

    Hi Val,
    This is a very interesting blog you made.
    I’m intrigued with the subject on selling to the 3 y.o.

    I can see that most of clients wanted us ‘the sales person’ to speak with their own languages.
    I have this 4 y.o nephew that constantly refuse to do what I want him to do, unless I spoke in a way that he understood.

    I believe the same rule applied for us, grownup too. Acting as a sales person in software industry, we tend to speak in high-tech terms, which is not every client completely understood.
    If this client has a high ego, they definitely won’t ask back in which actually he/she didn’t understand(well they don’t want us to think that they’re stupid).
    However, this kind of behavior is the one that put us out of business in the end.

    Just now, I had a visit from my director’s partner in volunteer work. This guy had conversation with us some time ago, before, when I saw him talk to my director. I believe I saw him nodding and agreeing with everything my director’s said, but just now he admitted that half of the conversation he had before, he completely has no clue about it.
    And now he thank me for repeating and conveying the messages with my own language (read=his own language).

    Don’t misunderstood, my director is a very smart man, unfortunately most of the time he assumed that people always understand on what he was saying. And he barely explains in details unless someone asked back. Another issue is not a matter of that person don’t want to ask back, but most of the time they just don’t know what to ask.

    So, I totally agree that in order to gain trust and made others to act according to our plan, we have to speak as we speak to a 3 y.o. Once they trust and understand us, it is easy to pursue our next step.

    Elle from LinkedIn

  • http://saleslaundry.com Val

    Thank you for the comments, Elle. Yes, serve up the information in bite size chunks that make sense to them.

    Val